Talking with one of my best friends about me coming out to him at a young age. We discuss religion and sexuality, and where the misunderstandings and controversy comes from.
Let's be friends!
Okay so...I feel the need to address this lol. In this video, I stated that I believe my friend's beliefs are "trash". First off...I do want to apologize for that. It was a bad attempt to lighten the mood with a blunt statement because...you guys don't know this, but prior to this video...I didn't know his full beliefs on homosexuality. So this was my live reaction to being told that a big part of who I am is a sin, having peodphilia also be brought into it (and yes I acknowledge that he wasn't saying they're the same thing) and I didn't bat an eye at that. If I could take back saying the word "trash", I totally 100% would. I knew Joseph wouldn't take it that seriously because that's just how we talk off camera and I didn't think about the fact that people who don't understand how we talk...it would come off as being super disrespectful. That being said...I tried my best to stay as calm as possible when someone I love dearly was questioning a fundamental part of who I am. He and I have had many conversations since this video. We are stronger than ever now. We're both still learning and growing. I hope you all enjoy the video <3
you honestly should not have to apologise! what you were hearing was hurtful, it doesn't matter if that's his belief, it was still hurtful to you and you're allowed to be hurt by it and react to that. people who honestly think you did something wrong need to chill.
Donavan Barrett I am Christian and I strongly believe in god, but I have nothing against gay ppl, I actually have a gay best friend. It disgusts me how ppl are talking about how they believe in god etc. If they really did they know that a person should have a kind-hearted heart towards others. We are all brothers and sisters and should treat each other equally and with respect, yet they’re over here, being rude and saying all of these disgusting disrespectful things, what a shame🤦♀️
Donavan,,,can you please ask your friend how he became a 'Manchester City' fan (the jacket!), because I am also. He is an amazing person, We Brits are as far away from religion as some of you are close to it. I mean I believe in God but I don't believe in religion. In UK if you are gay then - so what ? its your life, no problem. Its difficult to understand why people there live their lives because what was written by some guy thousands of years ago. Look forward to hearing from you.
So I love this video! I am a Christian and my church and I believe that God loves and everyone and if a Christian disagrees with someone’s ways, judgment should not be thrown at someone. I personally do believe that homosexuality is a sin BUT being judgmental is also a sin and MANY other things. Everyone sins and God forgives All sins. I feel disgusted when Christians put such an emphasis on homosexuality as if it is such a horrible thing. It’s not. I wish more Christians would realize that while they are shaming these gays, God is saying “Love your neighbor” Love how you guys had a peaceful conversation that moved forward and didn’t just sit in one place. Btw. I’m a Christian who is gay as hell, and I am proud as hell too. God loves me and has done so much in my life. Very glad I came across this video ❤️
However people become LGBT, the fact is not one ex-gay Christian in the 40 years of ex-gay ministries became heterosexual, admitted the ex-gay leaders in 2013. Since then every major, decades-old ex-gay ministry from the US to Australia closed.
This is honestly amazing. I'm religious, and i think religious people get a rep for being judgemental, and whatenot. But this is beautiful to see the interaction and the brotherly love. That's the change we need. Not discrimination, or judging. Just love.
I'm 14 and still in the closet. I can't come out to my parents because they are both super religious and I don't want to be disowned for being gay. They are both super loving, but I just can't bring myself to coming out. I need your support guys!
EDIT- I'm straight but have very close friends who r gay / more gay than straight and I respect that you both r friends and able to have different beliefs👍
This is discussed so much in the country were I live and I go to an all girl's school with an all boy's school down the road and I would say that 1/6 of Both school's (around 2500 people) so 417 people r openly gay and r accepted by most people *most r not that religious but come from very religious family
It sounds like you are interrogating him because you are gay and you need his acceptance or some sort of acceptance..Dude I am gay and I'm older than you..I know you said your so "old" and your not. I was raised in church. I believe the bible BUT I understand what you are saying but who are we to be against them and telling them how to live..yes it might save the next gay life..that kid who feels like they wants to kill themselves but we need to teach our kids as well how to be good to people and better..it don't help to be mean and judge..Like i said i understand where you were coming from but i grew up in church and I am gay..don't push your beliefs on them..
23 seconds in and like you must have acted like that just for the video right cause if your like that all the time there’s no way your friend wouldn’t think that your gay like what the f is he blind
EDIT: never mind I thought he was just coming out to him
Two guys meet at high school and start dating. Holding hands, they come out to their parents, one of the dads strikes his son and throws the other boy out the house. Eventually, they learn to accept them. They come out to their friends who, at first, ridicule or dismiss them but eventually accept them. Then they go to difference colleges and suffer the distance but prevail and stay together. After college they get full-time jobs, move into their own apartment. Then, in a restaurant in Rome, one of them gets on one knee and proposes. People start clapping but then other people start booing. They pass the news on to their family and they hear that some of them are refusing to attend their wedding. They get married at a church with protesters gathered outside. They go on their honeymoon but the hotel refuses to let them stay. When they get home, together for 12 years, and now married, they suggest adopting a child. Dozens of meetings and consultations later, they receive custody of their child. As a family, they go to an animal shelter and let the child choose. They adopt a dog and they call her Betsy. They take their child to the first day at school. Months later, they hear that their child is being bullied because of having two dads.
I don't know why I'm gay. Tell me though, when will the persecution and discrimination stop?
It kind of baffles me when non-Christians assume all Christians were brought up in a Christian home, always surrounded by other Christians. What about God performing miracles in sinners’ lives? My family are not Christians whatsoever, and I wasn’t influenced by ANYONE. At a young age I went to church by myself. Unfortunately, I grew apart from God as I got older, lived a very sinful life, then was saved (born-again) by grace 2.5 years ago... 8 years later. We’re not all brought up with the Bible nailed into our heads or “brainwashed” as some people say. God truly works in people’s lives.
Also, to expand on Joseph’s statement about free will, everyone does have a free will. You can choose to live in alignment with God’s perfect plan, or you can choose to live however you want. When one chooses to live however they want... THAT is when satan can really get a hold of you and destroy your life. That’s his ultimate goal - to destroy you. But when one has a relationship with God, you have constant protection, constant love, constant guidance. God already defeated satan. If you truly KNOW Jesus and have been saved by Jesus’ precious blood, you are 100% safe in God’s hands. He is able to change you. That’s not to say you won’t encounter hardship. I personally think being a Christian is harder than being of the world, but the Bible says (paraphrasing) that the suffering we go through now cannot compare to the glory to come! The ONLY way to Heaven is through Jesus. I went from being completely of the world - drinking ALL the time, using foul language, I was so full of myself, I was having sex, I smoked weed. I could go on. Jesus saved me from all of that. I hated who I was. He has completely transformed me. What’s amazing is the people around me can see the change. I give God all the glory and praise. So when Donovan said about “not choosing to be gay”, that’s because satan has made you think “oh I can’t be changed, this is who I am, I’ve tried to be heterosexual but I guess this is just me”. Did you try asking GOD to change you and mould you into the person He wants you to be? Because the truth is He is the only One that can change you.
Sex was created by God in order to reproduce. God wants us to enjoy sex, it’s a good thing - it creates life, as Joseph said. But the Bible says it is for a woman and a man when they come together as one in God. In marriage, the woman has her part to play, and so does a man. They both have different natural roles and characteristics. It is hard for me as well because my brother is gay and I love him. God hates the sin, but LOVES the sinner. It’s truly difficult telling my brother than he will go to hell. So as I do for him, I will pray for you, Donovan.
Gay people can be religious, there don’t have to be sides, there don’t have to be sides. The Bible and teachings come down to interpretations. What’s most important in my opinion is God loves everyone, it’s when you choose not to accept his love and faith that He lets you go. However, that doesn’t mean you’re just saying, “I believe in God”, it’s about living with gratitude and with his guidance, and sharing the love that he offers to you, just as Jesus did in the stories of the Bible. There’s lessons to be had through these stories. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.
Wow someone said it. I came out as bi sexual a few months ago and I'm in high school and 14 years old. Most of my friends left me just because I like both genders. It broke my heart that not everyone can accept me being myself. Thank you for saying this. I love you
Here’s the deal! When man first sinned it is called the Fall! It caused sin to permeate all parts of Creation. Not just physically through death and everything but it also changed the make up of our minds! This is why many people are born with genetic disorders, and mental disorders. With Homosexuality it is a change in the “natural” programming in the brain. So when you say God created me this way. That isn’t true! God created us pure, and holy. Even in The book of Romans calling Celibacy the highest calling! This means even a lot of m/f relationships are even distorted. The problem is that Gay trans.... these are very visible, and open sin. Where as the guy who is cheating on his wife secretly is guilty of the same. I am sorry for the behavior of many Christians treating you like a pariah! If you have time please read this book. It may help to understand what I am saying here: A War of Loves: The Unexpected Story of a Gay Activist Discovering Jesus
Awwwwww “acceptance” that was really amazing how he said that damn I thought I was only going to watch like a couple minutes in the middle I ended up watching the whole thing. I still gotta watch the beginning tho but damn this was dope I wish all hard core Christians could be this accepting or atleast go through a situation like this so they can stop being so harsh. Great video great watch
I’ve only watched a few mins of this video but why am I having trouble believing that these two are “best friends” maybe alright friends over the years but I couldn’t see these two hanging out everyday like bros. Is that weird to say? Or mean? I don’t mean it to be disrespectful I just don’t see these two joking around with each other on a daily basis like that..
Im a Christian but I support Gay marriage. My great uncle was gay and I have known some people who I grew up with and I know it wasn’t a choice for them. It’s not easy to be gay in this world so why would they choose to go through so much judgment and hate if they weren’t born that way?
I feel like it was more like two different point of views going at it. Also I feel like it was disrespectful when he said “ he was raised believing crap” I feel like the other guy was being respectful in his beliefs in being gay. But am happy they are friends because it shows that it is possible for people with different beliefs can be friends and not judge each other u know.
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