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My Experience With Grindr - Gay "Dating Apps"

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Hey guys, I know its been a while but I've decided to start making videos again! I hope you enjoy, and if you do be sure to leave a comment/subscribe! As always, if you're having any problems, feel free to reach out to me! instagram.com/phoenixrigney
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Trigger warning: FEM SHAMING
Adam N (9 days ago)
damn was just checking wtf is that you all gay asses can suck a dick
Everytime is more difficult to find someone interested in something different. :(
Chris Adams (1 month ago)
Hello Phoenix. I just seen your video. I decided today to see what others thought of the Grindr app. Sorry to hear about your experience. Saddly to say i've been using Grindr for years now. Living in a small, redneck town. Don't feel as though I have a choice. I'm out to my family, and don't have friends. I also understand what you mean about not being into girly acting guys. I'm the same. I've meet a few guys off Grindr. But, as you already can guess. They just wanted something sexual. I still use it, cause i keep hoping that just by chance i may meet someone on it. If not, well.. that is cool too. I must rather meet someone in person. Or at least have a phone conversation. I feel that getting to know someone through messages just doesn't really work for me. But, I'm working with all that i have and for what best fits my situation. Anyways... sorry for going on there. lol. Thanks for adding this video. I'm sure it will become useful to many guys. Cause i do believe there are alot of good, decent, down to earth guys out there. Just finding them is the problem. Anyways, say safe and happy.
Raymond Medeiros (1 month ago)
Your every cute guy
TheGrandRevo (1 month ago)
Was wondering where were all the non-sassy gay guys were
Alan Dillon (2 months ago)
Gindr is not a Dating App even if it says it is! Its not used as a Dating App its a Sex App. If it wete a Dating site it would get you to complete a questionnaire, it doesn't. When it says 'Right Now' as an option gives you a good idea its used for mainly a sex right now! If you see thst indicted with the other options Dates, Friendship, Networking or Right now then as yourself whats networking on a date site? Hmmm! Networking for a fxxk! Right now means pop over right now I'm horny! So only if the person has Dates and Friendship is it a maybe? Better going with a well known straight/hetrosexual Dating Site and on entering the site click on there gay section. Complete the questionaire section etc. Most well known Dating sites have a gay section for you to use and they tend to be people looking for more than ' right now's because it's not an option on these sits. You should try it.
Jose Rodriguez (2 months ago)
I relate so much honestly like 100%
UGA REDCOAT (2 months ago)
with your personality and looks, not to mention your being so level-headed, you definitely will meet someone who is right for you !!!
Larry Banks (2 months ago)
Grindr didn't work for me.
Alex Rivers (2 months ago)
"I wanted to finish highschool" this whole time I thought he was like 30
John Iii (2 months ago)
You were pretty naïve you cant even call yourself in the closet if you’re making videos and posting on Instagram that’s not called the closet you’ve got a lot to learn yet. But you’re definitely correct don’t expect to get a date on grinder everyone knows that
Raymond Dubois (2 months ago)
Don't try to force it, Phoenix. YOU will meet THAT special someone! I am not your type, I am 69 and learned too late in life to really settle down and love the one I was with. I have been alone for far too many years. YES, those apps are Horseshit! Welcome back and first and foremost, stay true to yourself, LOVE YOURSELF FIRST, then you'll be ready for HIM. Take care.
Renato Antelo (3 months ago)
Hey dude, I think you are smart and cute! 😁❤
Nick Mitchell (3 months ago)
Edil Morales (3 months ago)
i m very happy from hum i am people are acyl an i m very gay man i m very ok with with you im single two i m from milwaukee ws im latino two i out for good i m not close im open love sonny edil morales ediljan72@gmail.com
D&B Fishing (3 months ago)
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D&B Fishing (3 months ago)
Love you man
Laci Newcomb (3 months ago)
Grindr is full of girly boys
Patrick PhippsPA (3 months ago)
You're prefecting that role you so love as a victim. Keep it up, you've almost mastered it.
Patrick Crosby (3 months ago)
I get on Grindr now and then, just as I buy a lottery ticket now and then. Sure you might meet someone wonderful on Grindr, but it's a real long shot. Before there was Grindr, you went to "cruise spots" and it was more or less the same thing. Or to gay bars, which were a step up from that. But even then, lot's of shallow people. "Plastic" was an old term. One thing I did notice that there were always guys who always had "lovers." Some never did. Cannot tell you why, But I do know this was a fact. Wish I knew the secret!
CaliDude (3 months ago)
Grindr is all about sex hook ups, but keep in mind there are many guys that feel the same way you do but also find it hard to find like minded dudes....
sir you Can't do that (3 months ago)
My Last experience of hookup were with thugs catfish people with their victims photos, they beaten me stole my phone /cash and almost raped me if i didnt fought back with all the strength i had i could be found unconscious naked in some alley or even dead , my life was almost over for a filthy app it was one of the most dreadful experience i ever had the worst part they followed me and they know where i live ( they were 7-10 people chasing me in a car pursuit) and I didn’t know which car that was following me , i opened the app few days later to read their messages they threatened me that sooner or later they well rape me so its A i come willingly to get raped and maybe taped and have my stuff back or B they abduct me anywhere and still be raped That is one of the probabilities of what you might get yourself into in dating apps if your not aware how dangerous this can be let that sink in
Sa Dako (3 months ago)
SMCTNB (3 months ago)
That's so gay
Bryce Garrett (4 months ago)
You seem like a terrific guy--a keeper. Please come to Green Bay, WI
Scott Fisch (4 months ago)
I love your honesty. :)
MonMi TV (4 months ago)
Useful share to me. Thks so much, let's be friend
CHUßßZ ßUNNY (4 months ago)
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moonchart (4 months ago)
The whole "masc for masc" thing is such an eyeroll. Grow up and realise your internalised homophobia.
Cedric M (10 days ago)
Nothing homophobic about NOT being interested in feminine behavior.
Master Superblaster (4 months ago)
Or maybe some of us simply aren't attracted to dudes who act like hormonally imbalanced teenaged girls. Hell, most ACTUAL teen girls and adult women aren't as obnoxiously fem and over-the-top as gay men.
Richard Quiros (5 months ago)
You’re handsome so it’s easier for you to find someone. Well i like you hehe
Jeffrey Clifford (5 months ago)
So you're not into feminine guys or older guys, get over yourself guy, it's a big gay world out there, and maybe you need some solid gay friends before you start putting down people who don't fit into your small narrow version of life.
Butucel C. Radu (1 month ago)
What's wrong with not liking older or feminine guys!? It.s the same for me as well...like...you.re not on RuPaul's...dont act like a bitch
Bryan Thaxton (5 months ago)
Love your personality! keep your head up
Bryan Thaxton (5 months ago)
grindr and jackd frustrate me, its a "dating app" not a one night stand app....best decision of my life gettin off those shitty apps
RBI 352 (5 months ago)
I’ve seen the same guys on Grindr for years. They are not looking for relationship. We fight for marriage rights, every prof says nsa. Lol. I’ve hooked up plenty online. I haven’t met one tru friend from online. All my gay friends I’ve met in person. One relationship from Grindr ended badly. He turned back into a egotistical Grindr ass that doesn’t acknowledge my existence at all. Dated him almost 3 years. Lived with him for 2. Years after the breakup. I see him on Grindr, say hi. He blocks me lol The rudeness is unbelievable. All the questions guys ask. It’s not to find reasons to meet its to find reasons not to meet. Or asking for pics just to block you.
khn elias (5 months ago)
I am looking for a real life partner... Anyone interested
Zamolxe Tincu (5 months ago)
Rob Tansey (6 months ago)
Hay am also gay and I am out are you single I am looking for someone
Borg Borg (6 months ago)
You are right about Grindr. Really no one gets on there for anything but sex. And it really doesn't matter what age you are it is all the same. My best suggestion, which came from a friend who is married, is to find other people that like the same kinds of activities as you and go do that and in the process you just might meet the one. Meetup is one such way to find people with common interests. The good thing about meeting someone this way is if you like each other then at least you already know you have one thing in common.
Love Has No Boundaries (6 months ago)
may i ask if you already found someone and where did you find him i mean like which site did you find him. hoping for your response soon. more power
Love Has No Boundaries (6 months ago)
i can feel you bro. ive been on the same thing a lot of times. and up until now im still trying to search gay sites to find someone serious and for long term.
Juvine Grills (6 months ago)
I hate dating apps like Grindr So i decided to deleted it I only use Fb, insta and twitter right now 🙄🙄 no more dating apps
joan hastings (6 months ago)
u say ur in the closet while on youtube?? idiot
joan hastings (6 months ago)
u r gross
Nate Richardson (6 months ago)
Your really good looking, I'm sure you will have no problem meeting someone!!
James Case (6 months ago)
I wont go back Grindr account again. it was freaking out and scam on me for $$.
Daniel Minutilli (7 months ago)
grindr is messed up. the guys dont want to know anyone and dont want intimacy, just sex. plus, most of these sites are founded by people from other countries and are messing with our values here.
Daniel Iddo (7 months ago)
First of all, you are a total idiot to consider grindr a dating upp. even my grandpa knows this thing is for hook ups. second, what if it is you who is not good enough for for relationship instead of the guy that you try to blame? I am not buying your story. there are some.... many actually.....totally crazy ones among the young . are you sure you are not one of them?
Michael Milligan (7 months ago)
It seems like you have a lot BF potential... don’t settle for anything less than you deserve!!!! You seem like a nice guy , and that’s special...remember that .
Michael Milligan (7 months ago)
Hey dude ur open on the internet.... so there’s no such thing as being on the DL!!!
Avel Rodriguez (7 months ago)
Not even good for hooking up. I get ignored by 95% of the guys there and when we do talk all they ask for is for pics
Ranbir Dhillon (7 months ago)
I found your video amazzinggg 100000% agree with you your absolutely correct Grinder and other gay apps such as planetromeo are just for hook ups people just send nude pics, liers on there are people who just want sex and nothing more . I totally understand what your saying i'm in the same boat. Meeting people even in London is hard surprisingly.
AuzzPanda (7 months ago)
I fucking hate Grindr. Guys will be super nice and treat you like a human being , but after you’ve been talking for ages and decide to finally hook up, afterwards they never talk to you again.
Sophia Smith (8 months ago)
I wonder what’s the hidden but obviously not so hidden agenda of YouTube and of course Facebook along with google. ... It makes me uncomfortable not knowing the true purpose of some apps or some words because that means I can actually affirm or offend without even realizing it .
nycruise (8 months ago)
If it feels good, do it.
dean klous Robinson (8 months ago)
just came across your story. and I think you're so called friend is a bleeding twat. for gobbling off about thee. there's an old saying in North Yorkshire England Least said soonest mended in other words keep thee gob shut and that's what thee lad should of done
robert (8 months ago)
gay dating is just as terrible as hetero dating.  there are jerks all over.  you are a good looking young man.  you'll have to go  thru a lot of frogs til you meet a prince.  don't worry.  there is one.  sometimes just having sex can be fun.
Leonard Cardwell (8 months ago)
Hi Phoenix, I couldn't agree more, I've uninstalled the app several times, I gave it a few tries and had some colorful experiences but yeah, so true. I completely relate to being not out or at least not out to everyone. I've got a few years on you but for what it's worth, in my opinion there's nothing wrong with that. As I got older, I cared less and less but lived in a smaller city and since there's nothing femme about me, I decided to keep things on the DL. Then it seemed like a lot of guys are like that in that town. even married guys. Years later, in a bigger city, caring even less and wanting a relationship, I gave it a go twice. I understand not being monogamous in our 20's but I'm older now and it seems like monogamy is very rare at any age. Thanks for making videos, best of luck to you.
Marcos Ross (8 months ago)
Great video, great guy. Nicely spoken. best wishes young man.
Danny Luna (8 months ago)
If you really want to find the right PERSON. You need to just meet up, talk, go out to eat or a movie. Not to have sex on the first day. Then you will know if they are serious. Take it from me. Im not 60 nor a grandpa like you stated but I'm not 20 either.
blain park (8 months ago)
I love your vids. I feel like I have more courage to come out now thanks to you. I love you and all you do for us.
aloha maui (8 months ago)
I just came over to your house to ask you out on a date but your dog barked at me
Ben Burns (8 months ago)
Phoenix, this seems to be the oldest video on your channel. You mentioned that you had earlier videos. Are they in a different location or are they still private? I would like to view those videos if they are still available.
Jane Smitherson (8 months ago)
Grindr is full of Massager, Twinks looking for daddies, and Gentz. The worst of the gay community hangs there.
Rubina Maalouf (8 months ago)
You're super cute and honest ♥️
0008 009 (8 months ago)
Eres inteligente, guapo y muy agradable ☺☺☺ 😗. Gracias por los vídeos. 👽😽
Kyle Matthew (8 months ago)
Dude! This is the first time coming across your videos but glad you decided to get your shiz done and get back on..and I know this is from a year ago but I’ve been going through this recently (I’m discreet and using another account in case YouTube shows lol jk not that paranoid) but I met this PERFECT guy, not just for looks but for the personality and uniqueness and he lead me on basically saying we’d be friends since it was a friend’s with benefits kinda deal and wanted me and like begged me and made me feel bad but in a sexual way with hanging out idk but I met up twice and then no more messages..and I texted him three or four times but it was spread out to look like thoughtful messages (because it was that kind of thing) he said was having a hard week at work so I was sending him encouraging messages and I guess he didn’t like that or likes me but isn’t saying anything but I don’t want to say anything because I already asked if we are on the same page and he hasn’t responded in a week..so yeah I’m bummed and have been for awhile and I hate it because I fell for this stupid shit
Marcos Romero (8 months ago)
this was a great video man plus for anyone on the dating apps a little tip watch out for scammers on there
Roc Star Studio (8 months ago)
:(......Wish you were in Chicago
Cue Mayhem (8 months ago)
i only use the app if i either want my cock suck or im in depressed need of wanting to eat ass that's all and i know how to fight just in case someone tries to fuck with me but yeah just thought i share :)
John Ward (8 months ago)
Grindr is for gay whores. Reconsider playing it straight. Gay lifestyle is fuckdup.
sensoriussupremus (9 months ago)
It’s unfortunate you had to try them out to find out they weren’t “dating apps” 💀🤣
David McKinzie (9 months ago)
You have a whole support team here (and hopefully in person) when you're ready to come out. Of course, that's YOUR decision and time to do it, nobody else's.
Calvin Davis (9 months ago)
You are so adorable. Sweet and innocent. Today, you have a boyfriend. Didn’t seem that long from here to now. And you’re happy about it. It’s clear what your goals might be for a relationship. But my advice is to go slow. You will be happy. You have the support of family now and friends. That is all you need to know when you have that right person. You may have already found him. Good luck and great happiness to you. I’ll be watching.
The Sinnoh Firefly (9 months ago)
As someone who is also basically still in the closet I can relate to a lot of what you said. I also hate it when guys get all sexual especially if you only knew them via the Internet or phone and they seemed like decent people who wanted a relationship, as it was in your case. Sorry you had to go through this experience, I really am, but at least it taught you about the "dangers" of using these apps - that they're not meant for relationships, but for hookups and merely sex. I'm just really sorry you had your heart kinda broken and your hopes let down because of some douchebag. I also wanted to applaud you on wanting to meet gay guys in person, it's much more difficult but so much more worth it. But the only way you're going to find these men is either through friends or through coming out of the closet. Must be why I'm still single myself, too scared of coming out of the closet. Thank you for sharing your experience with us, even though it wasn't a nice one. Hopefully you'll meet someone who treats you right soon and manage to find a relationship. You're too decent and respectful and cute not to.
ely casinillo (9 months ago)
OK that's your choice. ...👌
Tony J (9 months ago)
I hear you
Bill Severns (9 months ago)
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Bill Severns (9 months ago)
Yes I'm gay I looking forward to for a guy to kiss me name bill severs
Adam Ali (9 months ago)
Grindr is creepy and a lot narcissistic assholes
John Gerard Griffith (9 months ago)
I would strongly suggest that you get in touch with your LGBTQ center that’s closest to your community. Some of the words you use are very homophobic and stereotyping and ageist. You seem like a really nice guy that needs to get in touch with people in the gay community that could help you maneuver through. All the best to you
Butucel C. Radu (1 month ago)
Ageist? Homophobic?! You've gotta be shitting me
Ron Crate (10 months ago)
Ps my friend went to vocational hs and is an electrician. His Facebook page is only people he knows similar in age. When he’s feeling frisky he posts on there. Someone he knows well responds and they take care needs. He is dating a woman like me, he can’t love men as preference, but appreciates their masculinity. However them internet apps are full of predators. They are angry that our generation is able to come out and not get shamed as most straight people don’t care anymore. They punish us for signs of times.
Ron Crate (10 months ago)
Home Depot is a great place to meet closeted. Guys
snjmriguy1 (10 months ago)
Well dude you just insulted older guys and you just insulted femme guys. Hate to break the news to ya but probably 90 of gays are femme. If your looking for a bf in the closet than ok but if your looking for an audience for your blog it is not good to insult people. Shame because you could help a lot of people with your story. Be polite ok
AJ Walker (4 months ago)
How did he insult anyone? He said he wasn't looking for feminine guys or guys old enough to be his grandfather. There was no name calling or anything. Not seeing how saying what he likes is "insulting" ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Chad Smith (5 months ago)
Lol don't watch if you don't like him, don't tell people how to live their life, dick
J D (8 months ago)
Well said, I had the same thoughts. Some older guys can be creepy, but so can younger guys too. Oh, and by the way, there are many younger guys who are into older guys. Also, some of the absolute best people I have ever met have been femme. Younger guys will get old some day, if they have lived shallow, judgmental lives, they have likely missed many quality people and run the risk of being alone. We all have our preferences, and that is fine, but be respectful of others and keep away from labels that are unnecessary.
Augustus Supremum (11 months ago)
1:58 I hope you got to clean up before the date xD
James Murphy (11 months ago)
About the same Experience here sadly. You're a really handsome guy, and you seem like a genuinely nice guy. You'll definitely find your guy one day. :) I'm sure of it. There's gold among the trash lol
Radames Vlogs (11 months ago)
Hi how are u
Tim Johnson (11 months ago)
Dating App??? 😮
Michael Garcia (11 months ago)
What a sweet heart... I was you.. I'm s home body private. I'm looking for a relationship..
Gary bigie (11 months ago)
I'm 60 years old now. It gets rougher as you get older. Old gay men very picky. And younger gay men just want our money. So giving you a class in gay life . Enjoy your youth every day. Because you will see a huge change as you get older.
justsucitup 5 (1 year ago)
Your story sounds so familiar...rough lesson
Andrew B (1 year ago)
I know I'm late to this one but I agree. I've tried dating apps now for 15...yes, 15...years and the results have been dismal. A lot of men on there are either mentally unstable or looking for sex. On my own channel, I have a few storytimes about the weirder ones, lol. Anyhow...hoping you're well. Oh, and I'm subscribed!!! :) -Andrew
Dylan Jacob (1 year ago)
Youre so cute 🙈❤
Maddratt x (1 year ago)
Dude you're young and naive. I'm not putting you down but that's what it boils down to. You're not used to the big world at such a young age. Anything that has the name GRINDR doesn't imply anything but bump and grind..... and if a man is 60 years old doesn't mean he turns straight. Being old and gay doesn't make you weird!
Bill MacNeil (1 year ago)
Very well said!!
jbson33 (1 year ago)
I don't like grinder myself ppl are so mean in there and rude and I don't want to be around ppl who talk to ppl like that so I know how u feel about that on
Mr Funky (1 year ago)
Firstly .....oh ye young naive one, you are "on the Down Low" ( a term originated to describe closeted BLACK gay men ...so that term is a bit dated ), you are closeted only in your head. Trust, others close to you know full well who you are, cause your social ego wont let you hide ...always gotta share shit..you youngins.!!!
haopy gay (1 year ago)
Hi I been on and off that app I notice most guys r low self-esteem and they thing they r better than u I meet some guys mate they were different than the pictures I just go on and chat I just want to say I am so proud of u for the guy on YouTube
Crasher Basher (1 year ago)
I totally relate to you.

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